Oversharing

I’m part of a generation used to living their life in full view – our collective adolescence measured in a succession of messaging apps and social networks. Each of them encouraged increasing levels of openness and entrenched the message: sharing prompts caring or, better yet, attention… More here.

By this point in time I would have mentioned our new dog, Bailey, on the site, or I would have added a couple of photos of our recent trip to Belgium somewhere, but I decided a few weeks back to stop doing that. Bailey sneaked onto Facebook, but that’s about it.

I muted WhatsApp, every single conversation, I stopped adding anything of my comments to Twitter and decided to leave the website and podcast alone.

I, like so many others, have a habit of oversharing my life, my thoughts and my commentary on politics etc, but it dawned on me that ultimately nobody gives a damn what I think. It adds nothing to the lives of others and it has become a ‘thing’ I do for no real reward apart from taking my mind off my real life.

Maybe it is time for people to live their lives offline and to view what has happened over the past 10 years as a mere digital blip within our more important analogue lives.

2 thoughts on “Oversharing

  1. I have to disagree, at least in part. Humans are social animals. We make friends. I’m not talking about Facebook “friends”, but real friends who care about what happens to you. And unlike family, there’s always a choice as to whether to become or remain friends. The internet has provided the opportunity of making friends outside of one’s normal social circle. I consider many of the people I met attending Tom Munch’s online concerts as real friends. I care about them and I believe that they care about me. That enriches my life. And it was you, my friend, through your blogs and whatsapp, who introduced me to Tom.

    As to the other side, I do get friend requests from people I don’t know. I usually ignore them. I know people collect “friends”. It’s like most technology. There’s good and bad. I was never interested in using Facebook. The pandemic changed that. I wouldn’t consider that I’m addicted in the way some people are, but it’s allowed me to be social when I want to be. I am interested in what happens in your life and what your opinions are. And I love the dog pics.

    1. Yes I get where you are coming from Bob. Admittedly the article is a bit negative, but it is more a criticism of myself and how I consider my oversharing at times to be too much. Maybe I am looking at it all the wrong way…

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